The grass is greener where you water it

The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It

Lately, I’ve been battling a swirl of nerves and a deep sense of longing as I prepare for a big move to a new place. It’s a feeling many of us can relate to—the pull of the familiar, the comfort of the known, and the fear of stepping into the unknown. Amid all this, I’ve found myself clinging to the age-old adage, “The grass is greener on the other side.” But let’s be real—no, girl, the grass is greener where you water it.

If you’re stuck agonising over whether there’s a “somewhere better,” a “someone better,” or a “something better,” let me offer a little perspective: statistically, there probably is. But here’s the kicker—what’s the point of fixating on it?

And so the other day I came across an Instagram reel (because where else will I get my information) about this psychological experiment thing . Two groups of people were each given a painting to choose. The first group was told they could swap their painting the following week if they weren’t happy—a reversible decision. The second group was told their choice was final—an irreversible decision. Guess who was happier with their painting? The second group.

This is the paradox of choice. When a decision is irreversible, we naturally find ways to commit to it, discover its value, and make peace with it. But when we leave room for doubt, second-guessing, and “what-ifs,” we invite regret, anxiety, and unhappiness to the party.

Instead of asking, “What if?” or “Would I rather?” try asking, “What now?” Where can you invest your energy, love, and time to make the best of your current reality? Chances are, you’ve already made the right choice. You just need to nurture it.

So, as I navigate this transition, I’m choosing to water the grass in front of me. To pour into the opportunities this move presents, the relationships I’ll build, and the growth I’ll experience. And I encourage you to do the same: ask yourself, what part of your life needs watering?

The grass isn’t greener elsewhere—it’s greener where you water it.